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My wife went to a psychiatric hospital this weekend. She's also very, very mad at me at the moment. I fear that her anger may be permanent. I hope that her road out of depression may have been kickstarted by it.

I think of many of you as friends. I would appreciate it if those of you who are into such things, as she is and I am not, would please pray for her. Those of you who are not, please think good thoughts, or whatever metaphysical nonsense you think might help.

I, personally, don't think that any of those things will help, but I'm at my wit's end, and I don't really know anything else to try.

Thanks.

Yikes, sorry to hear that.

I have a good friend of mine who did a stint in a Psychiatric hospital, and he's come out the other side a much better (and much much more stable) individual.

Let's hope that the same is true in this case as well, and that everything turns out well in the end.

I don't have a lot more to add, except that I feel for you, and wish you and her all the best.

Cheers,

Paul.

The only part of your situation I can relate to is having women very, very mad at me . The only thing that cured that was space and time. Good luck, I hope all turns out well.

Very sad.

I wish you both the very best in this difficult time. It's rather strange to see her anger towards you cited as a way to beat depression... It's certainly hard to see a strained marriage as a good thing.

Whatever the circumstances, I hope she can find a way to address her depression, and then at some point work with you through whatever other obstacles have come between you. I also hope that when you say "permanent anger," it's not an indication that you're giving up hope.

You're both in my thoughts and prayers, for certain.

It's rather strange to see her anger towards you cited as a way to beat depression... It's certainly hard to see a strained marriage as a good thing.

It is not. However, it is the first time in months I've seen her register any extended emotion other than melancholy.

he's come out the other side a much better (and much much more stable) individual.

Unfortunately, this is not her first time. It is the first time to this particular facility, however. I hope it works better than the last.

My best wishes to you.

Agreed.

Wow. I am not the praying type either, but one more best wishes sent your way. Hopefully the anger is a step in the right direction and will pass with time.

-Mike

Bitt, you and your wife have my best thoughts and wishes with you. These must be difficult times. I hope that everything works out for the best. If there's anything I can do to help within my power, let me know.

Keep your chin up, getting help is a good thing. I have had several relatives recently seek therapy to cure what has seemed like an endless bout with depression. In the short time that they've sought therapy, I have seen a marked improvement in their attitudinal position.

Thoughts and prayers? You got it.

Adam

Thank you all who have replied publicly or privately. I sincerely appreciate it.

I just got a call from my wife (Teri, BTW), and while she's hardly good, I can hear her in her voice instead of the emptiness I'd been hearing for months. She said that she'd been crying all morning, which I think is an improvement over, I guess, holding it in.

Thank you all again, and while we're not out of the woods by any stretch, I think that we can see the sun poking through the canopy (to unnecessarily extend a metaphor).

Keep thinking of us. Mostly her now. Now that I know that she's back to some extent, my mind is more at ease.

Bitt,
I will, as the rest of us, pray for you and your wife during this time. Let me make several observations since I deal with this sort of thing a good bit...

1. Your belief in God does not affect His belief in you. I don't mean this in the cheesy "God doesn't believe in atheists" sense. Instead I mean that He will very much be with you in this time as it is in His nature to love those He has created.
2. The repetitive nature of your wife's hospitalization is by no means unique. Most individuals that require hospitalization will have to visit a facility more than once. Her needing this type of help does not shadow her recovery.
3. My wife suffers from low grade depression (if you know me in real life realize that this is less than public knowledge and keep you mouth shut.) I know exactly what you mean when you say any form of emotion is welcomed over the blank stare that seems to settle on a person.

If I can be of any help let me know. My prayers are with you.

My best wishes for you both, and praise to you for sticking behind her and being willing to deal with her anger and everything else to get through it all. You're a good man for doing so. Any emotion is better than none IMHO.

Your belief in God does not affect His belief in you.

Oddly, my wife told me almost this exact same thing the night before she went in.

Since this thread is all about me (me! me! me!) anyway, I'll just state my religious beliefs for the record.

I honestly believe that it is impossible to know whether a supreme being exists or not. I also cannot currently believe in something of which I cannot fathom proof. This pretty strongly classifies me as an agnostic. This isn't based on nothing. I grew up in a Baptist church, and was quite active in it, as were my parents, until I realized that what I was doing was hypocritical.

However, if at some point I were to change my mind, I would be (to make up my own compound terminology) a Universalist Deist. I have seen nothing in my life to make me believe that God plays any role (at least any significant role) in the modern world, nor can I believe that everyone else is wrong, just because I was brought up in a culture that happened to choose this version of ``events''.

I could totally believe that something created the rules of the universe and let it go. Science does not have nor attempt to have any answer to ``Why''. Right now, though, I think I don't either need or want that answer.

Agreed here. Hang in there and I hope you both get through it.

It may not be an easy path, nor a short path. But you both are on the path.
Best wishes.

Best wishes, Bitt and Teri! I certainly hope that fist good signs indeed point to recovery.

BTW, my beliefs and ideas about absolute beings are very similar to yours. I sometimes feel embarrased when someone prays for me and I cannot respond in kind. Then again, I guess that sincere good wishes are my equivalent of prayer...

Your belief in God does not affect His belief in you.

I find it refreshing that someone who does not share Bitt's and mine outlook expresses his faith in this way. Beautiful community we have here!


Once more, best luck!

I want to thank everyone again for ... thinking good thoughts.

Teri's back home, and she seems to be a lot better, and even though she claims she doesn't think so, she's wrong. There's a drastic improvement.

I'll not bore you folks with the details, but, if you're interested, I'm going to try to force myself to keep up with it at my LiveJournal site. I've found in the past that it's difficult to write about the bad times because I get worn out dealing with them, don't want to write about them right then, and things blur in my mind quickly. But I'm going to try to force myself to do it anyway.

So, again, thanks, and best wishes to you all in any personal trials you may have.

That's great Bitt. I hope things work out.

Bitt, I don't know how, but I just saw this thread today. Wow. I'm so glad that the two of you are doing a lot better (even if it was her that needed treatment, both of you are affected.) I've watched my best friend go through something similar himself, and while I can't say I know what's it's like, I am away of how painful it can be. It's not as simple as "snapping out of it" but it looks like whatever you are doing is working.

My thoughts and prayers are with you buddy.

EDIT: Fixed Grammar after being cited by the Grammar Deputy.

"affected", not "effected" (since I figured Bitt might not bother in this thread..)