Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's?

Posted by: Heather

Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 01:20

What's wrong with this picture?

Or rather, what is wrong with these people? As much as I detest Chimpy McCokesppon, I can not wrap my head around the idea of wearing flip flops to the white house. As a matter of fact, I can feel one of my parents slapping me upside the head for thinking of it.

And it's not just these women, it's everywhere. I've noticed over the years totally inappropriate dress in court (at 20 I was floored when some woman showeds up to court in a spagetti strap tank top and short shorts, and saw someone getting thrown out of the courthouse for similarly vulgar attire two years ago when I went to go answer those assault charges), people confused when being refused into restaurants in jeans and t-shirts (obviously jacket required places), wet haired flip flopped and bathing suit clad kids running through supermarkets no where near a beach or pool, cargo shorts at a wedding two weeks ago (no, it wasn't a casual affair), and I could write volumes on the slovenly appearance (and more appalling behavior) of american tourists in churches (some of the locals are almost as bad). I'm not asking for haute coture, but is it really that hard to brush your damn hair and take off the pj pants and wifebeater and put on some real clothes?

Maybe it's just me, and i'm sheltered and/or insane, but isn't proper attire for the occasion something you're taught as a child (i can remember several fights with mom as a small child about not being allowed to wear the goofy shirt and donald duck flip flops that I was obsessed with to church or restaurants), or did it get lost with all this I'm OK you're OK crap? Are ettiquette books being burned along side the Harry Potter books? Can someone please explain where this comes from? Because I'm really confused by the idea that not one, but at least 5 (who knows how many more in the back row, those are just the ones I can see) in a group of 34 decided that this was perfectly OK.
Posted by: jimhogan

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 01:45

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Because I'm really confused by the idea that not one, but at least 5 (who knows how many more in the back row, those are just the ones I can see) in a group of 34 decided that this was perfectly OK.

One quick glance and a completely different subtext fairly leapt off the (Web) page. Those sandal-shod lacrosse amazons are revolutionaries, subverting through footwear the dominant, uptight boring-tie paradigm. The cleverly disguised, but inescapable message is that the guy holding the sticks, no matter his clean white shirt, is the kind of guy that hangs out with dippy flip-flop babes. Calls everybody "Buddy" or "Bro". Not too bright. A backslapper.

I suspect the flip-flop babes are really MoveOn.org operatives, looking to tilt the balance in this November's presidential elec....

...Umm, never mind.
Posted by: tfabris

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 10:48

Well, it is just Dubya after all. I mean, if it weren't for the White House staff dressing him, he'd show up to work barefoot in a NASCAR t-shirt.
Posted by: CrackersMcCheese

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 11:39

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Well, it is just Dubya after all. I mean, if it weren't for the White House staff dressing him, he'd show up to work barefoot in a NASCAR t-shirt.



I'd probably respect him more if he did. At least then you know what you're getting.

Edit: and why does he look like those sticks are holding him up?
Posted by: jimhogan

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 13:00

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Well, it is just Dubya after all.

"So tell me, girls, howdya all like workin' at Hooters?"
Posted by: Heather

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 15:09

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Well, it is just Dubya after all. I mean, if it weren't for the White House staff dressing him, he'd show up to work barefoot in a NASCAR t-shirt.


I doubt it. As good as his "I'm just a backwater hillfolk ignoramus and proud of it just like you" act is, he's not. Gotta respect Karl Rove for his marketing genius, love or hate the results. While he may have lived in Texas, he sure as hell was not educated there. Yokels do NOT get sent to Andover. (They do get into Yale sometimes, but under their own steam.) George is from Greenwich (the poor folks in town are merely rich, there's plenty of FU money in that town. The amount of power and money centered there is mindblowing. The local public high school has classes in philanthropy, because of the sheer percentage of kids there who will never have to work and will inherit enough that they can give piles of it away withoiut denting their lifestyle. Billionaires are not exactly uncommon there either, and there's only about 350 of those in the country.

Sure he does well to pander to the uneducated and proud of it (anyone else notice intellectual has become a dirty word like liberal?) segment of the population, just for the sheer head count, but he's not one of them. As soon as he gets back among his breathren, "my base" as he called them on his last visit there, he drops the hick act. Drops his beloved born again prattle too.

But the point is not that it's the Chimp in Chief, I'd find it unnacceptable no matter who was president. What I want to know is why so many people seem to think this (as well as the bad church attire, and the "whadda ya mean I can't wear sweatpants in your 4 star restaurant") is appropriate? It's not just in this instance. I've had to send receptionists home (and later would often wind up firing many of the same) to change, and I could not stop staring at some of the things I saw a bunch of new hires ( fresh out of college, same age group as these women) were wearing last time I stopped by mom's office(most definitely not a casual environment. The mentally handicapped guys who work in the mailroom have demonstated they can figure this out). And I was in jeans. WTF? I'm curios as to where the concept of "This is OK" comes from.
Posted by: BAKup

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 15:25

It's now a National Scandal...As opposed to a National Sandal.

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2005/07/18/national/main709848.shtml

So this is the best distraction they can do for Rove?
Posted by: tonyc

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 15:26

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WTF? I'm curios as to where the concept of "This is OK" comes from.


Back in the 20s and 30s a man out in public who wasn't wearing a hat was considered unacceptable, and dare I say you've surely worn outfits to work that back then would have been looked upon with the same disdain you're currently showing. Style changes over time, and Western society has been drifting towards more comfort and less formal dress for a long time, and I see nothing wrong with that.
Posted by: loren

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 15:38

Or maybe in this instance it just shows the lack or respect that the Pres. has earned?
Posted by: tonyc

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 15:45

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Or maybe in this instance it just shows the lack or respect that the Pres. has earned?

In stark contrast to my usual policy, I was trying to keep this thread less political and more "about the issues," in this case, the fashion angle of this story. But yeah, I'd say there's a good chance the flip-flop wearers weren't Bush voters (roll your own John Kerry joke there.)
Posted by: jimhogan

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 16:29

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Style changes over time, and Western society has been drifting towards more comfort and less formal dress for a long time, and I see nothing wrong with that.

Now that I've gotten a little derision out of my system, perhaps I can speak to Heather's real point....

It was interesting many years ago to move from the East Coast -- where putting on a jacket and tie for dinner was not very unusual -- to Seattle, where it was durned hard to find anybody in any restaurant with a tie. I like Seattle better in that respect.

Funny, or not so funny, I have a woman friend who has worked at ATT Wireless for years. Well, as you know, it is now Cingular. Witness the invasion of Bell South personnel policies. Lots of new directives to the effect that women really should wear dresses -- and "No sandals without hose!" Seriously. (Oh, and all of Wireless' gas-saving telecommute policies are being thrown out, too. Anything "liberal"? Gone.) So, the Pacific Northwest gets invaded by Nashville corporate mindset. Not good.

So, I like living someplace where people wear lots of sandals and shorts, but I am enough of a snob to agree with Heather's basic point. I am impressed that people are willing to be slobs on so many occasions. Imagine some guy standing in that shot wearing a tank top and beat up sneakers. Not hard to imagine.

Ah, but this is just to get our minds off Rove and Libby, ain't it?
Posted by: Redrum

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 16:29

Its not what you wear its who you are. I had to wear a tie when I started to work here 15 years ago. I don't now and welcome the change.

I'm glad the US is becoming a "casual work place." Clean and neat should be the only formal dress code.

And we sure don't want a few billion sweaty Chinese.... http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/8430784/
Posted by: wfaulk

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 16:33

Maybe those girls are wearing the modern equivalent of what we used to call "comfortable shoes". It is the lacrosse team after all. I bet they also play golf and field hockey, if you get my drift. They probably play for both teams, if you know what I'm getting at.

...

I mean they're lesbians.
Posted by: wfaulk

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 16:36

I love this quote from what is otherwise a pretty lousy movie:

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He said, good manners are just a way of showing other people we have respect for them. See, I didn't know that, I thought it was just a way of acting all superior.

I think too many people forget both of those things. That good manners are about respecting other people and that so many people think that it's just a way to be superior.

There are a lot of problems here. I have no problem with being comfortable, but there's no reason that those girls couldn't have been comfortable, yet display the decency required for that situation. (Personally, I wouldn't have show up, mostly for fear of being arrested for punching the President in the face.) And it's not the idiot in the suit that the respect is for; it's the office and the position. But those girls were more interested in themselves than in anything else, and that's an epidemic that spans the entirety of US culture these days, from showing up to a formal event in flip-flops, to talking on your cell phone while driving, to attacking other countries on a whim. There's no respect for others.

Now, I'm a bastard, and I don't give people many second chances, but until someone shows me that he's an idiot or a jerk, and even sometimes afterward, I try to show him the courtesy of doing things in a manner I would want them done in. I'm sure I fail too often, but I try, and I don't get the impression that that's a virtue that's at all striven for anymore.
Posted by: Dignan

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 16:41

I'll have to get my uncle, a writer and historian on men's fashion, to give me a quick write-up on this topic. I know I've heard him talk about it on several occasions.

I will say that I've been to the opera here at the Kennedy Center, and was pretty surprised to see shorts and short sleeves with sandals. It's not like I was in the old money crowd, so my girlfriend wasn't wearing her floor-length fur w/extravegant jewels and big hat, but I had a coat and tie on.

Would you say, Jim, that there are no situations that require attire above a certain level? Should we expect to start seeing tank tops at weddings...or funerals? I also agree that it's nice not to have to wear a tie to work, especially with the oppressive heat we're having here. My whole building has a very relaxed dress code. Heck, right now there's a guy who works across the hall and he's in shorts and sneakers. Sometimes I think how it's a shame you don't see as many suits any more, but then I think about how much I'd hate to be the one wearing them.
Posted by: Heather

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 16:54

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Back in the 20s and 30s a man out in public who wasn't wearing a hat was considered unacceptable, and dare I say you've surely worn outfits to work that back then would have been looked upon with the same disdain you're currently showing. Style changes over time, and Western society has been drifting towards more comfort and less formal dress for a long time, and I see nothing wrong with that.


But it's not always a comfort issue (I will give you that in this particular instance). In this case, it's homogenous sloppiness. A lot of what I see is stuff that's just wrong. For example, the succubus (my friends ex) comes up to me with a suit he bought for a grad school interviews. It looked like something straight out of legally blonde. Complete with 4 inch metal heeled pink flower embellished mules (shoes I actually owned). She asked me what I thought, and I told her "It's fine, if you're not planning on being taken seriously." Well, of course this makes me a great big ol meanie for telling the truth (he commited the worse sin of agreeing with me). Mind you, this was not someone who had never seen appropriate dress for an occasion like that (not just mine, which being as I didn't know what an evil bitch she was at the time, I would have happily lent her something appropriate, again), but someone who full well knew the rules of the game and thought that multicolor pink fringe trim job says to someone at a place like Columbia "Yes, I will make a great doctor one day".
I've witnessed many other not anymore comfortable than proper clothes horror shows like ballcap indoors with shirt and tie, abercrombie t shirt showing through dress shirt, tevas, socks, and suit (sorry, had to point and openly laugh at that dude, but could almost understand it as he could have changed his shoes to commute, and forgot to put the other ones on), leather halter top at reception desk (it was 90 degrees and humid this morning, so not comfortable), and my favorite, the dumbass biller we formerly had at the VW dealership, who showed up on day in the matching tracksuit with juicy printed on the ass. Explained by "This cost $300, I don't see what's wrong with it" as Erin attempted kicking her ass out the door before anyone saw that crime against taste.

Sometimes it is a comfort issue (however I look at it as a sign of poor breeding, or having absolutely no respect for anyone including yourself, to show up in a shirt and tie place in sweats, on purpose, not by accident), but in cases like this, and things like wearing a skirt so short you bend over and the world's your gynecolgist to church, it's not a comfort issue. And it's mostly tied to my age and below. I'm really curious as to where the hell it comes from.
Posted by: Redrum

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 16:57

And who in the heck invented a tie (rhetorical question here, no Googling necessary). That has got to be the stupidest piece of clothing around today.

Try to explain a tie to an alien. "Its a piece of cloth we wear on our necks tied in a certain way... Its for...ummm... it aaa.... makes us feel pretty, I guess."
Posted by: Redrum

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 17:12

I'm really curious as to where the hell it comes from.

I think it comes from a couple attitudes "this is a free country I'll wear what I want and you can't stop me." Others like me just don't give a rats ass what people think.

I'll agree that this my be taken as a lack of respect to some but I'm not interested in impressing people that only care about how I'm dressed. If they can't see me through my cloths then they're superficial snobs not worthy of my time.

OK, after saying that I'm sure I'd show up to the White House in my best. Mainly so I wouldn't get kicked out.
Posted by: wfaulk

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 17:14

They were initially intened to cover shirt buttons, which were seen as utilitarian and unattractive.

No googling necessary; pre-existing knowledge.
Posted by: Redrum

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 17:18

Kind of figured they were to hide those hideous buttons. God save us from button viewing
Posted by: Dignan

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 17:30

I'm pretty sure they also evolved from other things. I'll have to ask about that one too, I'm pretty sure my uncle wrote about that one.
Posted by: wfaulk

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 17:33

Oh, sure. But the defining feature of a tie these days is the flap that hangs over the front of the torso, not the part that goes around your neck; after all, clip-on ties are still considered ties.
Posted by: Dignan

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 17:36

Oh, I'm not denying that. That's what they're for today, but I was thinking the question was more about how we got to the point where we wear this piece of fabric around our necks and down our fronts. It didn't just happen all of a sudden.
Posted by: bonzi

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 17:44

A local legend has it that neckties evolved from a kind of scarf (cravat?) worn by Croat mercenaries in 17th century or so. Wikipedia seems to confirm details of the legend, but not its accuracy.
Posted by: webroach

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 18:01

Yes, you're right; it is a free country, and you don't have to care what anyone else thinks. But by the same token (and since I agree 100% with Heather), nobody should whine if they get refused service / have their employment terminated / or are looked down upon by others when they decide to not abide by the standards decided upon by a particular place of business / occupation / group of people.

As for myself, I generally dress quite casually. I'm rarely seen in anything other than a t-shirt (generally topped by a button-down shirt with the sleeves rolled up, if not a polo), nice jeans and my docs. But I'm a student. Even so, I'm generally much more appropriately dressed than most of the other students in my class.

If I go to a funeral, I wear a suit, as propriety demands. Likewise for court, or dinner at a nice restaurant. If I go for a job interview, I dress appropriate to the company. Personally, I would have fired the "Juicy" girl in Heather's story on the spot, no discussion. She's obviously not the kind of professional individual I would want working with my customers.

I have no problem with people trumpeting their "rights" in this country. But sadly, many of those same people become self-righteous when they have to deal with the consequences of their choice.
Posted by: mcomb

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 18:01

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They were initially intened to cover shirt buttons, which were seen as utilitarian and unattractive.

By that logic I guess all my buttonless t-shirts now count as formal attire OK, I admit it, I'm one of the fashion-challenged, heathens that believes who I am should be more important that what I wear and that what I'm wearing should reflect the respect that I have for the people at whatever event I'm attending. To that end I'll dress nicely for a wedding or a nice restaurant. I'd also have no problem showing up to the whitehouse in a stained wife-beeter and the pair of shorts from the back of my closet with a whole in the croch and no left butt cheek (but I'd at least wear boxers underneath).

-Mike
Posted by: drakino

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 18:11

Out of curiosity, what is your thoughts on proper dress for things like shopping? At what point does the price of the object actually influence an upgrade in dress? For me, I was in a button up shirt, nice jeans, and decent walking shoes when I went to look at houses, and figured anything more would have gotten in the way of looking closly at details on a house.

Car shopping, the first one was in a t-shirt (tucked in) and jeans. Being mostly ignored at one dealership was one reason I went elsewhere, though the other part of that was likely my age at the time. Not too many places expect a 20 year old to be buying a new car.

As far as the white house issue, I'd also be dressed much nicer then the folks there, simply more as a sign of respect for what the office is. Just because Bush is there now doesn't degrade my respect for the other 40+ people who have held that office.
Posted by: Redrum

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 18:17

Agreed, unfortunately you have to play the game, walk the walk, or pay. I'm surely not one to "push buttons" just because its "my right." I'm wearing a long sleeve button down shirt with dress pants right now. AND ITS 90 OUTSIDE!

This topic ranks right in the middle of my "don't really care so much" list. Just making conversation. I wish we could all be comfortable slobs.
Posted by: peter

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 18:40

I had great fun in morning dress at my brother's wedding, but only I think because it was so unusual for me to be in formal clothing: I'd have felt the same if we were all dressed as pirates, or Mexicans. (And just like with pirates or Mexicans, the best bit about an usher's costume is the hat.)

But I think slobbery starts at home: I've long made it a goal never to make anyone else wear a suit, or feel uncomfortable about not wearing one. And so far I've succeeded, though I'm not yet married or dead, both of which are notorious danger areas for suit-wearing.

Actually I can't stop now thinking about the looks on my brother's in-laws' faces if we'd all turned up to the church dressed as pirates. That would have ruled.

Peter
Posted by: RobotCaleb

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 18:45

I have never owned a suit. I wouldn't know where to buy one. I wouldn't know how to ask for one. Does that make me less prestigious than someone well-versed in that sort of thing?

I realize that isn't what this thread is focused on. I understand dressing up to go to a nice restaurant is considered a good thing, but I don't understand the logic behind it. Why is a suit considered proper attire to go sit and watch a fat lady sing in a language I don't understand? History. Past water doesn't turn the mill.

*shrug*

I grew up in Montana. Not much for fancy anything there.
Posted by: Heather

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 19:11

Out of curiosity, what is your thoughts on proper dress for things like shopping? At what point does the price of the object actually influence an upgrade in dress? For me, I was in a button up shirt, nice jeans, and decent walking shoes when I went to look at houses, and figured anything more would have gotten in the way of looking closly at details on a house.

Proper dress for shopping? I'd say something clean and look like you shower and comb your hair regularly. I sure as hell don't even try to dress to the standards that employees are kept to, as I view shopping as a task more akin to housework, I dress for utility. As for price point where this changes? I'll tell you when I see it. I've got no problem showing up in Hermes with my tattoos showing (first thing I cover when worried about judgements) in jeans, and apparently, most people who are shopping there rather than browsing are in something casual as well. Most people buying Ferraris and the like I've seen are doing so in casual clothes. My family included.

Real estate, in residential instances, i'd apply the same standard, just look clean and relatively unwrinkled. Never saw my parents get dressed up to go look at property once in my life (and they own several) and have followed that standard. Commercial real estate is sometimes a different story. Realtors on the other hand, I went through 23 when looking at places before my parents gave me this house (ranging from mere imbecile to turdstain on humanity), including one charming gentleman who spoke to me like I was five and told me "my daddy might be able to help me". The guy I use now is usually in jeans and a polo shirt when showing houses. But he also doesn't consider himself above crawling on the floor to point things out. It's a utility thing. He's in a suit if it involves a bank or the seller.


Car shopping, the first one was in a t-shirt (tucked in) and jeans. Being mostly ignored at one dealership was one reason I went elsewhere, though the other part of that was likely my age at the time. Not too many places expect a 20 year old to be buying a new car.

Heh. I had one BMW sales guy tell me flat out I couldn't afford a Z3. Didn't ask about income, credit, price range, nothing. I had my checkbook in my back pocket, planning to pay for it outright when I ordered it. BMW dude number two was almost as offensive(ignored damn near every word after my mouth and talked to me like I was slow). And it was only BMW, got none of that at porsche or benz, which was just wierd to me. But 20 year olds buying new cars isn't wierd around here at all. I got sent to the Cadillac dealer more than once around that ageand younger to go buy a car to save someone else some time. I had many a newly licensed 16 year old with a blank check in their pocket come in and buy cars (usually found out after salesperson called mom or dad). YMMV

[censored] in other places (Neiman Marcus, the Chanel boutique in NJ), I basically think it's sheer incompetence along with poor form, visible in many lines of work.

As far as the white house issue, I'd also be dressed much nicer then the folks there, simply more as a sign of respect for what the office is. Just because Bush is there now doesn't degrade my respect for the other 40+ people who have held that office.

Exactly. I don't get the "It's a free country, I can ignore all extablished norms and do as I please because I'm special and you're all stuck up if you don't like it" mentality. You made the choice to show up, no one held a gun to your head. The agreement to show up somewhere constitutes, in my mind, and agreement to live up to the established norms and practices of the place. It's not just a clothes thing, it's degredation of acceptable standards of behavior.
Posted by: FireFox31

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 19/07/2005 23:12

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drifting towards more comfort and less formal dress for a long time

I have to agree with Tony. Many many aspects of society have been getting more and more lax each decace for centuries. Parents in every generation say "What's wrong with the kids these days! Their horrible music, their revealing clothes, their foul language, the way they dance, staying out all night" etc etc. Conditions have been "getting worse" since the fall of Puritanism. Mind you, I'm pretty conservative and don't agree with all of the social degredation, but honestly, we've all survived.

Things evolve, and sandals will become acceptible dress just like "skirts which expose the womans knees" stopped being scandelous. But please peoples, don't wear the wife beater or the knee-length pro team logo shirt out of the house, ok?

Or maybe the lacross ladies are keenly demonstrating that "less clothing = more attention".
Posted by: bonzi

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 20/07/2005 04:51

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Conditions have been "getting worse" since the fall of Puritanism.

Since early Egyptian dynasties, it would seem (I read somewhere about a lament on "how spoilt this new generation is" being one of the earliest deciphered texts).

There are two mechanism at work here, I think: one is a system of conventions, customs and taboos every society (and group within it) has, and behaving as a good antropologist does (i.e. trying to blend) is a good way to avoid being spotted as an outsiders by the natives and thus avoid tension or rejection. Other mechanism is a relic of the times when a strict dress code was just another way to erect a barier for those from a wrong social segment: the point being filtering people by their ability to afford an appropriate costume (which, of course, is now absurd: almost everybody can afford a barely conforming costume, unless they employ X-ray diffraction analysis at the door to check whether diamonds on one's cuff links are genuine). Funeral dress code belongs to the former group; fancy restaurant one to the later; I am not sure about opera - might be both.

I try (albeit not very hard) to conform to the former, although I think we should be above taboos without substance. The later I either ignore or avoid settings where they come into play.

Ah, yes, there is another mechanism, a variation of the first one: uniform. Business suit is just that, an uniform. In that regard, I might be considered an irregular.
Posted by: JBjorgen

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 20/07/2005 11:10

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Or maybe in this instance it just shows the lack or respect that the Pres. has earned?


Starting with blowjobs in the oval office? Heh...at least she was wearing a dress and most likely appropriate shoes.

Not trying to start a partisan battle...just noting that the lack of respect for the office isn't solely Bush's doing.
Posted by: JBjorgen

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 20/07/2005 12:12

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They were initially intened to cover shirt buttons, which were seen as utilitarian and unattractive


I happened to have a copy of Charles Panati's Extraordinary Origins of Everyday Things lying around. Sure enough...he had an entry on neckties. I've transcribed it here:

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The functionless, decorative, least comfortable of mens attire is of military origin.

The first recorded neckwear appeared in the first century B.C. In the heat of the day, Roman soldiers wore focale -- scarves soaked in water and wrapped around the neck to cool down the body. This completely utilitarian garment, however, never caught on sufficiently -- in either a practical or a decorative sense -- to become a standard article of menswear.

The origin of the modern necktie is traceable to another military custom.

In 1668, a regiment of Croatian mercenaries in the service of Austria appeared in France wearing linen and muslin scarves around their necks. Weather the scarves were once functional, as were focale, or merely a decorative accent to an otherwise bland military uniform, has never been established. History does record that fashion-conscious French men and women were greatly taken with the idea. The began to appear in public wearing neckwear of linen and lace, knotted in the center, with long flowing ends. The French called the ties cravates, their name for the "Croats" who inspired the sartorial flair.

The fashion quickly spread to England. But the fad might have died out if the extravagant, pleasure loving British monarch Charles II had not by his own example made neckwear a court must. And had the times not been ripe for a lighthearted fashion diversion. Londoners had recently suffered through the plague of 1665 and the devastating citywide fire of 1666. The neckwear fad swept the city almost as fast as the flames of the great conflagaration.

The trend was reinforced in the next century by Beau Brummel, who became famous for his massive neckties and innovative ways of tying them. In fact, the proper way to tie neckwear became a male obsession, discussed, debated, and hotly argued in conversation and the press. Knots and ties were named for famous people and fashionable places, such as the racecourse at Ascot. Since that time, neckwear in some form -- belt-long or bowtie-short, plain or fancy, rope-narrow or chest-broad -- has been continually popular.

The bow tie, popularized in America in the 1920s, may also have originated among Croatian men.

For many years, fashion historians believed that the small, detachable bow tie developed as one of the many variations on longer neckwear. But that was opened to debate by the discovery that, for centuries, part of the costume of men in areas of Croation consisted of bow ties. They were made from a square handkerchief, folded along the diagonal, pulled into a bow knot, then attached with a cord around the neck.

Posted by: jimhogan

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 20/07/2005 13:39

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Would you say, Jim, that there are no situations that require attire above a certain level?

No, I wouldn't say that and hope I didn't imply that. I mean, I think Seattle's shorts-and-sandals culture is great and, for people like my techie friend in a no-customer-contact job, I don't understand why she has to be subjected to the pointless conventions of uptight Tennesseean telecom tyrants. But....

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Should we expect to start seeing tank tops at weddings...or funerals?

I will equivocate by saying "it depends...I hope not."

I expect you will see tank tops and "My Other Ride Is Your Daughter" T-shirts at biker funerals and everybody in attendance will think that is just ducky. I bet Dragi goes to the occasional funeral wearing a black turtleneck, sunglasses and a beret and the bereaved understand that it is his somber, formal attire. If I showed up without a jacket/suit and tie at some weddings and funerals of friends and relatives, that would be looked upon very badly. It's the culture. It's the respect thing. If I couldn't pull it together to show some respect for the folks that are inviting me, I wouldn't go.

My thought on White House invitations is this: as much as I deeply, deeply loathe the current residents and take every opportunity to diss them, I have no plans to accept their invitation so I can embarass anyone with goofy attire. The next time I accept such an invitation, I'll arrive quite reasonably well dressed. In the meantime, I'll just express my displeasure with a simple "No thanks, I'm scheduled to get my oil changed that afternoon".

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Sometimes I think how it's a shame you don't see as many suits any more, but then I think about how much I'd hate to be the one wearing them.

I wore a suit for 3 years as a consultant. PITA. I *will* say, sadly, though, that the psychology of suits does have an effect. Fly into a hospital in a small town wearing an expensive necktie and some people look at you like you're the Pros from Dover.
Posted by: bonzi

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 20/07/2005 14:04

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I bet Dragi goes to the occasional funeral wearing a black turtleneck, sunglasses and a beret and the bereaved understand that it is his somber, formal attire.

Close enough.
Posted by: Laura

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 20/07/2005 21:50

Ah, move to the country and you'll lighten up a bit
Posted by: Heather

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 20/07/2005 22:04

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Ah, move to the country and you'll lighten up a bit


Sorry, been to many part of rural america, and quite frankly I'm scared out of my wits and disgusted by what i've met there.
Posted by: Laura

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 20/07/2005 22:41

And I hate cities They scare me. I'll stick with the hilljacks, they're a bit more down to earth than city folk.
Posted by: Ezekiel

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 21/07/2005 02:05

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disgusted by what i've met there.


Hm. They must have had the wrong shoes.

-Zeke

Instructions on individual cheese slice wrappers.

Discuss.
Posted by: Heather

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 21/07/2005 02:55

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Hm. They must have had the wrong shoes.


Nah, it's more charming episodes like being referred to as "The nigger's kid" openly (confused the hell out of me, as I was used to my dad being mistaken for a dominican), the ever popular good hartland introductory conversation of:

"Where you from?"
"New York"
"Are ya a jew?" (I'll give you a pass on this one if the first thing that comes up in conversation when you visit a big city is "Do you live in a single or double wide?" or "who's the better lay, your sister or your cousin?")

Or my personal favorite "where you from?" "The Bronx" followed by a desperate clutching of one tacky wallmart naugahyde puse (as if I'd be caught dead carrying that! ). While I enlarge that piece of scar tissue on my inner lip by biting on it, as I am on their turf and feel I should respect their culture, no matter how strongly I feel they're gutter trash.

Yeah, rural America. Found it just so wonderful I could pee my pants with excitement waiting for a return visit.


And even the hillfolk (oh, the conversations I heard that day) at my cousin's wedding wanted to know WTF the dude in the cargo shorts was thinking. And I heard these same people talkin about how uppity the bride had gotten with education (prison hairdressing school and a GED).
Posted by: tanstaafl.

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 27/07/2005 22:58

A lot of what I see is stuff that's just wrong.

In the same vein, I have wondered when it became acceptable for women to display their bra straps. I won't go so far as to say it's "just wrong", but it does strike me as curious.

No doubt I'm dating myself here, but I remember a time when a woman would have been quite embarassed displaying her underwear in public. Now, it is not only quite common, but seems to be an intentional fashion statement.

I don't object to it - it's even a bit titillating in an adolescent sort of way - but it is a notable evolution in women's fashion.

tanstaafl.
Posted by: Heather

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 28/07/2005 00:34

In the same vein, I have wondered when it became acceptable for women to display their bra straps. I won't go so far as to say it's "just wrong", but it does strike me as curious.

UGH! Clothing pet peeve from the top of the list! This one I can date. The summer between my finishing my bachelors and starting grad school (I think 1998) when the lingere strap tank top first became popular. That's when it started.

No doubt I'm dating myself here, but I remember a time when a woman would have been quite embarassed displaying her underwear in public.

Uh, some of us still exist. We seem to be a shrinking minority.

Now, it is not only quite common, but seems to be an intentional fashion statement.

And men do it too, and it looks just as bad on them.

I don't object to it - it's even a bit titillating in an adolescent sort of way - but it is a notable evolution in women's fashion.

Hmmm, maybe I'm friends with the biggest crop of liars in the world, but most of my male friends find it tacky as hell. Or maybe it's because they're younger than you and they're so used to it that not seeing the g-string (an item designed so underwear could be less detectable, i think that qualifies as ironic) sticking out of the pants is more attractive. Something about imagination. Or maybe they're just odd.
Posted by: jimhogan

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 28/07/2005 00:47

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but it does strike me as curious.

Me, curious, Oh that they would strike me!
Posted by: JeffS

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 28/07/2005 02:28

Wow, a lot going on in this thread. I guess here is my general input about dressing up (or down):

-Dressing up takes effort and shows respect, when appropriate.

-Dress for events tends to follow the type of performance. A symphony has a great deal of focus on a structured and technical performance, so structured and intentional dress seem to fit well. A rock concert, on the other hand, is more relaxed by nature, and so attire follows suit (no pun intended). Imaging showing up in a suit to a Pearl Jam concert . . . Pearl Jam and Beethoven may both be musical geniuses, but they certainly emphasies different aspects of music and it takes a different kind of discipline to perform them well.

-Dressing up is a complement to others. I don't really like putting on a suit, but it's worth it when my wife dresses up because she is totally HOT when she does.

-Dressing nice can give you an edge. Probably the lowest of hanging fruit when trying to impress others is dressing up. I wear suits to interviews (even though that doesn't seem to be the trend these days) or when meeting with clients. I dress nice when I go to buy a house or car. You can insist all you want that it shouldn't matter, but it does and people treat you different. Yes I wish people would just look at my skills, but at the end of the day if I get more respect for dressing up then I'll do it. I once was a project lead over a team with memebers older than me, but because I wore a tie every day they had the impression that I was older and so respected me. In similar situations where I've dressed more casually it has been a lot more difficult to command respect. It might sound silly, but it works and every edge counts.

Having said all of that, I don't really understand dressing up for everyday work (unless you're trying to set yourself apart, say as a manager). I actually did wear a tie for two years just to see if it would make a difference, and I did get promoted. But I have a feeling that would have happened without the tie. The day after my promotion I took the tie off for good and no one said a thing, nor did my work relationships seem to suffer. The only time it really made a difference was when I was trying to lead others; and then it was just about trying to offset my younger age.

I wish I could wear shorts and sandals every day- I think I'd be just as productive. But at least my new job is business casual (and more casual than most business casual I've seen). The exception is one day a month where we all have to wear suits because the big buys (and gals, I assume) are visiting. That's fine with me- it's nice to see everyone dressed up for a while.

Anyway, I suppose I'm just rambling now. I think dressing up is a nice thing to do every once in a while and can be a usefull tool in certain situations. But I'm glad I don't have to do it every day.
Posted by: wfaulk

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 28/07/2005 12:21

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And men do it too, and it looks just as bad on them.

I always ... no, never ... no, always, make sure my bra straps are hidden.
Posted by: pgrzelak

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 28/07/2005 13:07

"I'm a lumberjack, and I'm OK"...
Posted by: Heather

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 28/07/2005 14:02

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I always ... no, never ... no, always, make sure my bra straps are hidden.


...but only to avoid the awkward moment if my wife catches me wearing her undergarments.
Posted by: genixia

Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? - 01/08/2005 00:51

Talking of inappropriate attire, I was bemused today when I accompanied my wife and son to Mass. Some guy gets up to take communion in a pink t-shirt across the front of which is emblazoned;

"Laugh all you want - this is your girlfriend's shirt"