I tried installing some Emplode software off the web to load up the database on my computer but it wont recognize it and im sure im missing something.

Current versions of Emplode only work with v2.00 car-player firmware (or the beta versions of v2). Unless your brother ever took the time to upgrade his firmware, the player is probably still running the older v1.03 or earlier. Your first step would then be to download and apply the v2.00 firmware upgrade.

Peter