I'm totally with you on the FiOS thing. I love the Internet and TV services, but the Actiontec wireless router they want you to use is a nightmware to configure. The performance is okay, and has the many of the advanced things you'd want on a router, but the administrative interface is so goddamn clunky that it's hard to make simple changes.

So, like you, I've tried to make it do the bare minimum for my network, but it's a giant hassle. The recommended solution for getting all of the services including on-demand video and remote DVR scheduling requires you to use *three* routers - the Actiontec, your primary router/gateway box, and a third router that just sits between them and serves up your external DHCP address to the Actiontec. That is apparently the *only* way to get remote DVR working unless you're okay with the Actiontec being the primary router. What a pain!