Wow, it's no wonder that you're having trouble with the aftermarket cables. This page...

https://www.ifixit.com/Answers/View/130949/What's+the+cable+pinouts

... says that there's some electronics inside the cable, it's not merely a set of pinout connectors. So maybe the aftermarket ones don't have the correct electronics inside them. (But then, how can they get away with still selling them, I wonder, since I would expect none of them would ever work?)