I used a visa quick check and looked at online banking the next day., there was a charge there. Now i go and look and the charge is gone.

This is normal, even if the shipment is really going to happen.

The first one isn't a charge, it's just a "funds authorization". It looks just like a charge in your online banking report, but it's not. It's just a pending transaction that doesn't go through and falls off the account after a specified time period.

The real charge only happens when they ship it.