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I think you have it backwards about the relay probes. If you want to reject things with % in, I think you need Russ Nelson's patch:
http://qmail.plig.org/qmail-smtpd-relay-reject
As for emptying the queue,
http://www.faqts.com/knowledge_base/view.phtml/aid/6567/fid/286/lang/en
I don't know about spam filtering, but I'm going to have a play with SpamAssassin this weekend -- I'm rebuilding my webserver (which runs qmail).