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#260771 - 19/07/2005 19:11 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: drakino]
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Out of curiosity, what is your thoughts on proper dress for things like shopping? At what point does the price of the object actually influence an upgrade in dress? For me, I was in a button up shirt, nice jeans, and decent walking shoes when I went to look at houses, and figured anything more would have gotten in the way of looking closly at details on a house.

Proper dress for shopping? I'd say something clean and look like you shower and comb your hair regularly. I sure as hell don't even try to dress to the standards that employees are kept to, as I view shopping as a task more akin to housework, I dress for utility. As for price point where this changes? I'll tell you when I see it. I've got no problem showing up in Hermes with my tattoos showing (first thing I cover when worried about judgements) in jeans, and apparently, most people who are shopping there rather than browsing are in something casual as well. Most people buying Ferraris and the like I've seen are doing so in casual clothes. My family included.

Real estate, in residential instances, i'd apply the same standard, just look clean and relatively unwrinkled. Never saw my parents get dressed up to go look at property once in my life (and they own several) and have followed that standard. Commercial real estate is sometimes a different story. Realtors on the other hand, I went through 23 when looking at places before my parents gave me this house (ranging from mere imbecile to turdstain on humanity), including one charming gentleman who spoke to me like I was five and told me "my daddy might be able to help me". The guy I use now is usually in jeans and a polo shirt when showing houses. But he also doesn't consider himself above crawling on the floor to point things out. It's a utility thing. He's in a suit if it involves a bank or the seller.


Car shopping, the first one was in a t-shirt (tucked in) and jeans. Being mostly ignored at one dealership was one reason I went elsewhere, though the other part of that was likely my age at the time. Not too many places expect a 20 year old to be buying a new car.

Heh. I had one BMW sales guy tell me flat out I couldn't afford a Z3. Didn't ask about income, credit, price range, nothing. I had my checkbook in my back pocket, planning to pay for it outright when I ordered it. BMW dude number two was almost as offensive(ignored damn near every word after my mouth and talked to me like I was slow). And it was only BMW, got none of that at porsche or benz, which was just wierd to me. But 20 year olds buying new cars isn't wierd around here at all. I got sent to the Cadillac dealer more than once around that ageand younger to go buy a car to save someone else some time. I had many a newly licensed 16 year old with a blank check in their pocket come in and buy cars (usually found out after salesperson called mom or dad). YMMV

[censored] in other places (Neiman Marcus, the Chanel boutique in NJ), I basically think it's sheer incompetence along with poor form, visible in many lines of work.

As far as the white house issue, I'd also be dressed much nicer then the folks there, simply more as a sign of respect for what the office is. Just because Bush is there now doesn't degrade my respect for the other 40+ people who have held that office.

Exactly. I don't get the "It's a free country, I can ignore all extablished norms and do as I please because I'm special and you're all stuck up if you don't like it" mentality. You made the choice to show up, no one held a gun to your head. The agreement to show up somewhere constitutes, in my mind, and agreement to live up to the established norms and practices of the place. It's not just a clothes thing, it's degredation of acceptable standards of behavior.
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#260772 - 19/07/2005 23:12 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: tonyc]
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drifting towards more comfort and less formal dress for a long time

I have to agree with Tony. Many many aspects of society have been getting more and more lax each decace for centuries. Parents in every generation say "What's wrong with the kids these days! Their horrible music, their revealing clothes, their foul language, the way they dance, staying out all night" etc etc. Conditions have been "getting worse" since the fall of Puritanism. Mind you, I'm pretty conservative and don't agree with all of the social degredation, but honestly, we've all survived.

Things evolve, and sandals will become acceptible dress just like "skirts which expose the womans knees" stopped being scandelous. But please peoples, don't wear the wife beater or the knee-length pro team logo shirt out of the house, ok?

Or maybe the lacross ladies are keenly demonstrating that "less clothing = more attention".
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#260773 - 20/07/2005 04:51 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: FireFox31]
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Conditions have been "getting worse" since the fall of Puritanism.

Since early Egyptian dynasties, it would seem (I read somewhere about a lament on "how spoilt this new generation is" being one of the earliest deciphered texts).

There are two mechanism at work here, I think: one is a system of conventions, customs and taboos every society (and group within it) has, and behaving as a good antropologist does (i.e. trying to blend) is a good way to avoid being spotted as an outsiders by the natives and thus avoid tension or rejection. Other mechanism is a relic of the times when a strict dress code was just another way to erect a barier for those from a wrong social segment: the point being filtering people by their ability to afford an appropriate costume (which, of course, is now absurd: almost everybody can afford a barely conforming costume, unless they employ X-ray diffraction analysis at the door to check whether diamonds on one's cuff links are genuine). Funeral dress code belongs to the former group; fancy restaurant one to the later; I am not sure about opera - might be both.

I try (albeit not very hard) to conform to the former, although I think we should be above taboos without substance. The later I either ignore or avoid settings where they come into play.

Ah, yes, there is another mechanism, a variation of the first one: uniform. Business suit is just that, an uniform. In that regard, I might be considered an irregular.
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#260774 - 20/07/2005 11:10 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: loren]
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Or maybe in this instance it just shows the lack or respect that the Pres. has earned?


Starting with blowjobs in the oval office? Heh...at least she was wearing a dress and most likely appropriate shoes.

Not trying to start a partisan battle...just noting that the lack of respect for the office isn't solely Bush's doing.
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#260775 - 20/07/2005 12:12 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: wfaulk]
JBjorgen
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They were initially intened to cover shirt buttons, which were seen as utilitarian and unattractive


I happened to have a copy of Charles Panati's Extraordinary Origins of Everyday Things lying around. Sure enough...he had an entry on neckties. I've transcribed it here:

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The functionless, decorative, least comfortable of mens attire is of military origin.

The first recorded neckwear appeared in the first century B.C. In the heat of the day, Roman soldiers wore focale -- scarves soaked in water and wrapped around the neck to cool down the body. This completely utilitarian garment, however, never caught on sufficiently -- in either a practical or a decorative sense -- to become a standard article of menswear.

The origin of the modern necktie is traceable to another military custom.

In 1668, a regiment of Croatian mercenaries in the service of Austria appeared in France wearing linen and muslin scarves around their necks. Weather the scarves were once functional, as were focale, or merely a decorative accent to an otherwise bland military uniform, has never been established. History does record that fashion-conscious French men and women were greatly taken with the idea. The began to appear in public wearing neckwear of linen and lace, knotted in the center, with long flowing ends. The French called the ties cravates, their name for the "Croats" who inspired the sartorial flair.

The fashion quickly spread to England. But the fad might have died out if the extravagant, pleasure loving British monarch Charles II had not by his own example made neckwear a court must. And had the times not been ripe for a lighthearted fashion diversion. Londoners had recently suffered through the plague of 1665 and the devastating citywide fire of 1666. The neckwear fad swept the city almost as fast as the flames of the great conflagaration.

The trend was reinforced in the next century by Beau Brummel, who became famous for his massive neckties and innovative ways of tying them. In fact, the proper way to tie neckwear became a male obsession, discussed, debated, and hotly argued in conversation and the press. Knots and ties were named for famous people and fashionable places, such as the racecourse at Ascot. Since that time, neckwear in some form -- belt-long or bowtie-short, plain or fancy, rope-narrow or chest-broad -- has been continually popular.

The bow tie, popularized in America in the 1920s, may also have originated among Croatian men.

For many years, fashion historians believed that the small, detachable bow tie developed as one of the many variations on longer neckwear. But that was opened to debate by the discovery that, for centuries, part of the costume of men in areas of Croation consisted of bow ties. They were made from a square handkerchief, folded along the diagonal, pulled into a bow knot, then attached with a cord around the neck.


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#260776 - 20/07/2005 13:39 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: Dignan]
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Would you say, Jim, that there are no situations that require attire above a certain level?

No, I wouldn't say that and hope I didn't imply that. I mean, I think Seattle's shorts-and-sandals culture is great and, for people like my techie friend in a no-customer-contact job, I don't understand why she has to be subjected to the pointless conventions of uptight Tennesseean telecom tyrants. But....

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Should we expect to start seeing tank tops at weddings...or funerals?

I will equivocate by saying "it depends...I hope not."

I expect you will see tank tops and "My Other Ride Is Your Daughter" T-shirts at biker funerals and everybody in attendance will think that is just ducky. I bet Dragi goes to the occasional funeral wearing a black turtleneck, sunglasses and a beret and the bereaved understand that it is his somber, formal attire. If I showed up without a jacket/suit and tie at some weddings and funerals of friends and relatives, that would be looked upon very badly. It's the culture. It's the respect thing. If I couldn't pull it together to show some respect for the folks that are inviting me, I wouldn't go.

My thought on White House invitations is this: as much as I deeply, deeply loathe the current residents and take every opportunity to diss them, I have no plans to accept their invitation so I can embarass anyone with goofy attire. The next time I accept such an invitation, I'll arrive quite reasonably well dressed. In the meantime, I'll just express my displeasure with a simple "No thanks, I'm scheduled to get my oil changed that afternoon".

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Sometimes I think how it's a shame you don't see as many suits any more, but then I think about how much I'd hate to be the one wearing them.

I wore a suit for 3 years as a consultant. PITA. I *will* say, sadly, though, that the psychology of suits does have an effect. Fly into a hospital in a small town wearing an expensive necktie and some people look at you like you're the Pros from Dover.
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#260777 - 20/07/2005 14:04 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: jimhogan]
bonzi
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I bet Dragi goes to the occasional funeral wearing a black turtleneck, sunglasses and a beret and the bereaved understand that it is his somber, formal attire.

Close enough.
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#260778 - 20/07/2005 21:50 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: Heather]
Laura
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Ah, move to the country and you'll lighten up a bit
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#260779 - 20/07/2005 22:04 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: Laura]
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Ah, move to the country and you'll lighten up a bit


Sorry, been to many part of rural america, and quite frankly I'm scared out of my wits and disgusted by what i've met there.


Edited by Heather (20/07/2005 22:06)
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#260780 - 20/07/2005 22:41 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: Heather]
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And I hate cities They scare me. I'll stick with the hilljacks, they're a bit more down to earth than city folk.
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#260781 - 21/07/2005 02:05 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: Heather]
Ezekiel
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disgusted by what i've met there.


Hm. They must have had the wrong shoes.

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#260782 - 21/07/2005 02:55 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: Ezekiel]
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Hm. They must have had the wrong shoes.


Nah, it's more charming episodes like being referred to as "The nigger's kid" openly (confused the hell out of me, as I was used to my dad being mistaken for a dominican), the ever popular good hartland introductory conversation of:

"Where you from?"
"New York"
"Are ya a jew?" (I'll give you a pass on this one if the first thing that comes up in conversation when you visit a big city is "Do you live in a single or double wide?" or "who's the better lay, your sister or your cousin?")

Or my personal favorite "where you from?" "The Bronx" followed by a desperate clutching of one tacky wallmart naugahyde puse (as if I'd be caught dead carrying that! ). While I enlarge that piece of scar tissue on my inner lip by biting on it, as I am on their turf and feel I should respect their culture, no matter how strongly I feel they're gutter trash.

Yeah, rural America. Found it just so wonderful I could pee my pants with excitement waiting for a return visit.


And even the hillfolk (oh, the conversations I heard that day) at my cousin's wedding wanted to know WTF the dude in the cargo shorts was thinking. And I heard these same people talkin about how uppity the bride had gotten with education (prison hairdressing school and a GED).
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#260783 - 27/07/2005 22:58 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: Heather]
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A lot of what I see is stuff that's just wrong.

In the same vein, I have wondered when it became acceptable for women to display their bra straps. I won't go so far as to say it's "just wrong", but it does strike me as curious.

No doubt I'm dating myself here, but I remember a time when a woman would have been quite embarassed displaying her underwear in public. Now, it is not only quite common, but seems to be an intentional fashion statement.

I don't object to it - it's even a bit titillating in an adolescent sort of way - but it is a notable evolution in women's fashion.

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#260784 - 28/07/2005 00:34 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: tanstaafl.]
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In the same vein, I have wondered when it became acceptable for women to display their bra straps. I won't go so far as to say it's "just wrong", but it does strike me as curious.

UGH! Clothing pet peeve from the top of the list! This one I can date. The summer between my finishing my bachelors and starting grad school (I think 1998) when the lingere strap tank top first became popular. That's when it started.

No doubt I'm dating myself here, but I remember a time when a woman would have been quite embarassed displaying her underwear in public.

Uh, some of us still exist. We seem to be a shrinking minority.

Now, it is not only quite common, but seems to be an intentional fashion statement.

And men do it too, and it looks just as bad on them.

I don't object to it - it's even a bit titillating in an adolescent sort of way - but it is a notable evolution in women's fashion.

Hmmm, maybe I'm friends with the biggest crop of liars in the world, but most of my male friends find it tacky as hell. Or maybe it's because they're younger than you and they're so used to it that not seeing the g-string (an item designed so underwear could be less detectable, i think that qualifies as ironic) sticking out of the pants is more attractive. Something about imagination. Or maybe they're just odd.
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#260785 - 28/07/2005 00:47 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: tanstaafl.]
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but it does strike me as curious.

Me, curious, Oh that they would strike me!
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#260786 - 28/07/2005 02:28 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: Heather]
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Wow, a lot going on in this thread. I guess here is my general input about dressing up (or down):

-Dressing up takes effort and shows respect, when appropriate.

-Dress for events tends to follow the type of performance. A symphony has a great deal of focus on a structured and technical performance, so structured and intentional dress seem to fit well. A rock concert, on the other hand, is more relaxed by nature, and so attire follows suit (no pun intended). Imaging showing up in a suit to a Pearl Jam concert . . . Pearl Jam and Beethoven may both be musical geniuses, but they certainly emphasies different aspects of music and it takes a different kind of discipline to perform them well.

-Dressing up is a complement to others. I don't really like putting on a suit, but it's worth it when my wife dresses up because she is totally HOT when she does.

-Dressing nice can give you an edge. Probably the lowest of hanging fruit when trying to impress others is dressing up. I wear suits to interviews (even though that doesn't seem to be the trend these days) or when meeting with clients. I dress nice when I go to buy a house or car. You can insist all you want that it shouldn't matter, but it does and people treat you different. Yes I wish people would just look at my skills, but at the end of the day if I get more respect for dressing up then I'll do it. I once was a project lead over a team with memebers older than me, but because I wore a tie every day they had the impression that I was older and so respected me. In similar situations where I've dressed more casually it has been a lot more difficult to command respect. It might sound silly, but it works and every edge counts.

Having said all of that, I don't really understand dressing up for everyday work (unless you're trying to set yourself apart, say as a manager). I actually did wear a tie for two years just to see if it would make a difference, and I did get promoted. But I have a feeling that would have happened without the tie. The day after my promotion I took the tie off for good and no one said a thing, nor did my work relationships seem to suffer. The only time it really made a difference was when I was trying to lead others; and then it was just about trying to offset my younger age.

I wish I could wear shorts and sandals every day- I think I'd be just as productive. But at least my new job is business casual (and more casual than most business casual I've seen). The exception is one day a month where we all have to wear suits because the big buys (and gals, I assume) are visiting. That's fine with me- it's nice to see everyone dressed up for a while.

Anyway, I suppose I'm just rambling now. I think dressing up is a nice thing to do every once in a while and can be a usefull tool in certain situations. But I'm glad I don't have to do it every day.
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#260787 - 28/07/2005 12:21 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: Heather]
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And men do it too, and it looks just as bad on them.

I always ... no, never ... no, always, make sure my bra straps are hidden.
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#260788 - 28/07/2005 13:07 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: wfaulk]
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#260789 - 28/07/2005 14:02 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: wfaulk]
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I always ... no, never ... no, always, make sure my bra straps are hidden.


...but only to avoid the awkward moment if my wife catches me wearing her undergarments.
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#260790 - 01/08/2005 00:51 Re: Was there an epidemic of lead paint chip eating in the early 80's? [Re: Heather]
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Talking of inappropriate attire, I was bemused today when I accompanied my wife and son to Mass. Some guy gets up to take communion in a pink t-shirt across the front of which is emblazoned;

"Laugh all you want - this is your girlfriend's shirt"
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