Now, by putting the resistor to ground, do you mean simply splicing off from the antenna control lead to the resistor to ground? So the control lead would look somewhat like a "Y" or "T"?

It was also suggested that even though the diode on across the coil should disipate the coil's charge, that I might try putting a diode inline with the remote wire, to prevent any reverse current.

I'll meter the various points near the relay tonight if I have the chance, to find out exactly what's happening.

Thanks.

Bruno