Oh, I forgot to check the discovery thing... I apparently do get correct discovery:

sh-2.03# cat /proc/net/irda/discovery

IrLMP: Discovery log:



nickname: amigo, hint: 0x8220, saddr: 0xf00786e7, daddr: 0x4d116318

[/proc]

(that's my Palm)

and with my Pager/Phone, I get: 
sh-2.03# cat /proc/net/irda/discovery

IrLMP: Discovery log:



nickname: A009 Josh Harding, hint: 0x8220, saddr: 0xf00786e7, daddr: 0xc92c4831
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--The Amigo