In regards to your server without a monitor:

I don't have a monitor on my server. Actually, its in my basement, away from my main computer. I use a free program called TightVNC (do a goolge search) to remote control my server. Its a small program that works very well. I'd recomend it.

Anytime I want to do anything on my server, I just fire up the VNC client, type in my password, and its like I'm sitting at my server.

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