Thanks for the posts everyone. My plan is to upgrade the firmware on the router tonight (it's a .1 upgrade), and give it another shot. If that doesn't work... i'll bang my head against a wall a few times and probably stay up til 2am again reconfiguring every little detail until it still won't work, and i'll go back to my trusty old 486 linux router. Technology... bah.
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