Hmmm... How much extra memory did you add? I am at 48MB. Unfortunately, I suspect you may have to downgrade to 2.0 if the reservecache option becomes too high or impractical for you. Worst case, with 2.0, the memory is only availble to the kernel because the player application is not aware of it.

I have not had trouble with emplode not detecting the player, but if there is enough memory starvation, I can see where it would happen. Try bumping a little higher and see if that helps you. If it doesn't downgrade to 2.0 and use the RAM for additional background kernel apps.