Sorry, still haven't had time to rip apart the dash and do this yet... but Tony... here's the specific part that needs to be faq'd from Rob V.:

"If your hands free kit switches between 0V and 12V then it's easy to get working - just configure the player from emplode to know which state is active mute. If the kit switches between 0V and open circuit, you need to add a 10K resistor between the mute line and 12V, then configure the player to mute on 0V."

i'm still not exactly clear where this goes though... should i just tap into the 12v line to the player and the phone mute line and use the resistor to bridge them?

     ===|============12V==========|-----------

        | <-10K resistor          |  EMPEG

     ===|===========mute line=====|-----------