But that just falls into the whole picking and choosing part again.

Not true. It is still the infallible word of God, and we are not “picking and choosing” what we like and do not like. We do not live in a theocracy, so therefore laws concerning government are not directly applicable (though there are still underlying principals). Likewise, in the New Testament we are told that Jesus' sacrifice was the summation of the sacrificial system of worship, so those law are not to be strictly observed (but again, there are principals the are meaningful). Jesus was quite clear, however, when it cam to the rest of the law that it should still be observed.

My point is that nowhere in the gospels does Jesus say it's ok to hate and alienate. But people do that everyday in his name.

Which is a good point, and in fact what I was saying in the rest of my post.