"Even if they repair it it'll never be the same... "

Loren,
If they don't total the car be certain that the body shop uses OEM parts. You may have to fight a bit to get them (the body shop may make less off your insurance company this way) but they are the best by a mile. My wife's car was damaged pretty badly (95 EX Civic), but since it had high book & low miles they repaired it. The right front quarter panel sounds like a cheap piece of tin when you knock on it, much different than the original left hand side. The light on the right cannot be aimed properly either & I noticed too late to do anything about it. Consumer reports did an article on this subject a while back, it may be on the 'net somewhere. Be sure to ask your insurance company for OEM parts. Good luck.

-Zeke

just say you weren't paying much attention...