And... to get back on topic, YES all is fair in love and war (esp. when you're defending your homeland) excpect killing your own people.

Why is killing your own people not "fair"? Not that I think it's right, but why should we expect anyone to fight a war in the "right" manner? The only way to enforce any rule/ law/ agreement is at gunpoint, and during war the guns are already pointed. I'll agree at least on this point with Laura: all's fair in war. Let's not make some sort of rule that we can't enforce and then decry the enemy for not obeying it. If he agreed with us about morality we'd not be at war in the first place.