I might get flamed for this

No by me. It's an honest question and it shows why alot of people miss the point in this. Marriage was originaly a strictly religious institution that has been adopted by the government. As long as the government ran it by the church's rules most people were happy to leave well enough alone (a bad idea). But it has become clear (first through ease of divorce and now through this matter) that the government is not interested in playing by the chruch's rules any more, all we are saying is "If you don't want to play by our rules anymore, fine. But give us back our name."